Demeaning Behaviour And How To Respond
Demeaning Definition And How To Recognise This Behaviour
Demeaning behaviour is a common problem faced by many people. Whether it occurs at work, school, or even among friends and family, demeaning behaviour can be detrimental to our psychological health (e.g., social anxiety, reduced self-esteem). In this article, we will explore demeaning behaviour and how to recognise it in others.
What is Demeaning Behaviour?
Demeaning behaviour is any action or communication that makes someone else feel inferior or less valuable than they actually are.
This behaviour comes in many different forms. Expressions of demeaning behaviour may include verbal, non-verbal, and overt behaviours.
One of the most insidious aspects of demeaning behaviour is that it often happens gradually over time. The person who is being demeaned may not even realise what's happening until their mental health has been eroded away.
How to Recognise Demeaning Behaviour
Recognising demeaning behaviour in others can be challenging because it can occur subtly. However, here are some potential warning signs:
Verbal Insults and/or put-downs.
Nonverbal behaviours such as rolling eyes, sighing or looking distracted.
Physical behaviours such as pushing, shoving, or other aggressive physical actions.
Undermining your confidence by questioning your abilities or belittling your accomplishments.
Dealing with Demeaning Behaviour
Dealing with demeaning behaviour can be challenging. Here are some tips on how to handle this situation:
Signal disapproval: Let the person know that their behaviour is not acceptable
Set boundaries: set boundaries for how you expect to be treated.
Be clear: Specify the specific behaviours that appear to represent demeaning behaviour.
Seek support: Talk to friends, family members, or a colleague about what you're experiencing to gather support during difficult times.
Consider walking away: If the situation becomes too toxic or dangerous, consider walking away from the relationship altogether.
Summary
Recognising and dealing with demeaning behaviour can be challenging but it's important to safeguard ourselves. We can promote more acceptable behaviour by setting boundaries and seeking support when necessary.
Further reading:
Dealing with Difficult People by HBR Press.
Coping with belittling behaviour.
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