Fame & you
Coping with Fame
One of the interesting aspects of my work is meeting people from a range of backgrounds. I am constantly learning about the challenges individuals face in different life circumstances.
I have worked with several high-profile clients. This group of people are widely-recognised in their communities. Some are even known around the world for their success in business, music, and sport. However, this fame brings challenges. There is no way to prepare for life in the spotlight. So, people seek support to manage these circumstances.
In this article, I talk about just a few of the challenges I have encountered in my work.
Misconceptions
Some members of the public believe that a famous life is an idyllic existence. Life is amazing. Fancy restaurants, swimming in money, people adoring you. Reality is different; hard work, lack of privacy, individuals attempting to take advantage of your position. The gap between perception and reality can leave a person feeling misunderstood, irritable and isolated. The effects of these misconceptions can ultimately damage your mental health.
Whether you have a senior role in a big company, present a TV show, or play a sport to thousands, there are still 'normal' psychological challenges to manage. Unfortunately, some people do not realise this. Everyone experiences relationship problems, self-doubt, loss and grief. High-profile people are no exception. However, dealing with these challenges in the limelight can be more complicated.
Just a few people who understand the challenges of your job and life can positively impact wellbeing. 'Normalising' these misconceptions can also be of benefit. The perception-reality gap tends to have less impact when you both expect it and make sense through a rational explanation.
It's not reality
Many people talk about never fully getting used to celebrity status. High-profile clients describe their circumstances with gratitude and a touch of the surreal.
One reason for feelings of 'unreality' is having experiences that do not occur for others. These unique events can include anything from performing in front of thousands of people to making decisions that affect the direction of a company worth several hundred million dollars.
A second reason relates to reduced anonymity behaviour modification. For example, you cannot always go shopping in a mall if your face is recognisable. I can take these types of activities for granted. No one is running up to me for an autograph! But a famous person cannot easily do these 'normal' things. This situation further contributes to a sense of unreality (and isolation).
There are ways to keep grounded. Building 'normal' activities into your routine is one suggestion. For example, you might insist on doing certain activities for yourself (e.g., some housework, cooking meals). People from your pre-fame life can also keep you tied to your roots.
Relationships
Increased relationship complexity is another aspect of living a public life. Perhaps the biggest relationship issue I discuss with clients is coping with uncertainty about what people want in their relationships with you. This ambiguity applies whether you are a high-profile sportsperson or leading a large company.
Fame and notoriety are attractive. Many people want a piece of the action. Unfortunately, this leads to uncertainty in relationships. Is this friendship genuine? I advise clients to consider the following points:
You can probably trust long-term friendships without fame-based requests (e.g., Can you help me promote my website?).
Focus on established relationships where there is 'reciprocity', or each side equally supporting the other. Healthy relationships have balanced give and take.
Be wary of the type of support requested by others. Be wary when others ask for things based on your high profile. For example, 'Can I talk through a problem I'm having with my parents?' is less likely to be using your status than 'Can you help me buy a car?'.
Personal intrusions
Famous people live their lives in the view of thousands, sometimes millions of people. The lack of a private life brings many challenges. In wanting to feel connected, some members of the public will assume they know your life. Social media platforms are full of individuals who fabricate details of a person's life.
Most high-profile people must give up a degree of privacy to do their jobs. For example, a football player must be available for press interviews. An on-screen professional must help promote programmes and/or movies. There are different expectations on the visibility vs privacy issue. So, you have to fight for some privacy to protect yourself and close friends/family members.
Summary
These are just a small sample of the challenges faced by clients who manage a high-profile existence. There are other issues, along with many strategies to manage this lifestyle. There are definitely ways to cope.
I am a Coaching & Clinical Psychologist with extensive experience helping people conquer a range of wellbeing and performance issues at home and in the workplace. Read more about my work, watch practical skills videos or browse other articles. Get in touch anytime.