Is Relationship Counselling Right for You?

Relationships are central to our lives. However, we all struggle to maintain positive connections with others at times. Perhaps the biggest challenges (and rewards) occur in romantic relationships. Couples counselling (or marriage counselling) can be a good option in these circumstances.

What does relationship counselling do?

We use psychological skills in relationship counselling to help couples achieve relationship goals. A trained professional guides this work. There are various styles and approaches. So, choosing a professional who's a good fit is important.

Most relationship counselling starts by identifying issues, understanding problem causes, and setting session goals. Many clients set improved communication, connection, and relationship satisfaction as key outcomes. Practitioners then use various techniques to achieve these goals.

Can counselling help a broken relationship?

Counselling can be effective when both people come to sessions fully motivated to make progress. Clients must take a close look at their contribution to past difficulties. People should be open and ready for some discomfort in examining their behaviour (e.g., shutting down communication, breaking trust, etc). People must also work hard between sessions on skill development.

No one can guarantee success through counselling. However, motivation, the right attitude, and hard work increase the chance of a positive outcome.

Counselling can also work well for couples enjoying a good relationship. In the hands of a skilled practitioner, couples can enhance their bond through a proactive approach to relationship development.

How long does relationship counselling take?

The number of sessions varies based on individual needs and the complexity of issues. Some practitioners work to a short time frame. Others will take a more open-ended approach. However, a practitioner should provide estimates of session numbers and review progress regularly.

Practical advice on finding relationship counselling

It's crucial to do your research and find qualified relationship counsellors. You can check credentials, search for ex-client reviews, or obtain recommendations from friends, family, or other professionals. You should seek a counsellor with training, experience, and expertise in relationship work.

It's vital to start the process early. Avoiding problems will make later progress more difficult to achieve. Some services also operate a waiting list for counselling sessions. So early registration is essential.

You can now find numerous counselling services online. This increased availability is a positive development. However, the above advice applies equally to online services.

Summary

Putting time and effort into relationships pay off for many couples. Seeking support from an experienced, competent practitioner is a great investment in yourself and those you care about.

Early help is crucial to resolve difficulties successfully. So, make that first counselling appointment when you can. Couple work can also be a great way to strengthen relationships that already function well.

Further reading:

If you're not sure whether couples work is right for you. Here are some recommended books to start exploring this area:

  • Sue Johnson's book 'Hold Me Tight' provides information and strategies based on an 'attachment' approach to relationship problems.